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Eli Payne Mandel

In 1962, the British psychoanalyst W. R. Bion began

to describe in detail what passes between mother and child 

in their earliest communications, a world of two

where language has not yet found its place.

To Bion, an economy governs this world: a trade

in affects. The frightened, famished, or deliriously

content infant exchanges, in a transaction

slipping under our threshold for registering

such deals, the raw goods of its experience

for the commodity of the mother’s understanding.

This understanding is a matter not just of marking

the child’s inner states—Are you hungry?—but of holding 

the baby in mind for as long as it takes to make some sense 

of its way of being. In words or through facial expressions, 

with touch or without external signs, the mother receives 

her child’s mind. She gives back something that starts

to make sense. For Bion, this is the beginning of thought. 

To think is to open up possibilities for being: to tolerate 

discomfort, make room for difference, to link, to weave, 

with curiosity and without fission or fusion.



As the infant begins to think, it must not require

the mother’s constant or perfect presence.

Just as important is her appropriate absence,

a distance where the imagination assumes its first forms. 

To think means to survive the frustration when

the mother temporarily disappears, or disconsolate hunger

appears. Bion worked from the assumption, derived

from the work of his own analyst, Melanie Klein,

that for the primal mind, the absence of something good 

equals the presence of the very bad. Later the absence

of the rose will be the occasion for the word rose,

as the poets tell us. Without language, or, later,

if language breaks down, the absence of the rose

is the presence of a rotten and sickly anti-rose,

as if there will never again be a sweet smell

or seductive thorn. When the mother goes away

for a time, the healthy child develops the capacity to think

of her: this picture is the first symbol.

Without symbols, the mind collapses into terrifying immanence.



It is possible, too, Bion implies, that thinking

is more a matter of space than of substance.

How often does thinking something through

lead to insight? What, anyway, is the through?

Insight, if it comes, is not a golden trinket.

It is a maneuver, a step in the dance

that opens another room beyond

the one where one has been living.

The thing customarily called a thought

might better be categorized under worry,

obsession, rumination, well-rehearsed fantasy,

tired interior decor…The thought that counts

is a vessel, and containment and reverie,

Bion’s words for true thinking,

is the function of this vessel as the dipper plunges

and pours, almost indifferent to its contents.



So much of what we call thought is not thinking. 

Bion does not say this, but to have even one thought 

is lucky. Often, a supernumerary winter

settles over the mind. Images parading

before the inner eye or the confidential tones

of self-address are not in themselves evidence

of a change in season. A thought is the squall

that leaves leaves shaking. Or:

the green of a tree’s growing. Perhaps.

It is far from clear that there is still green to give.

Eli Payne Mandel is the author of the poetry collection The Grid. He is a lecturer in English and comparative literature at Columbia University and a candidate at the New York Psychoanalytic Society and Institute.
Originally published:
December 15, 2025

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